The Nature of Not Giving Up

The Nature of Not Giving Up

“The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out; the brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. The brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They are there to stop the other people!” – Randy Pausch

Dearest little ones,
We’ve licked our wounds from having to close our previous adoption attempt through the state, and realized that we’re not just ‘giving up’ on you or our family. We all deserve better than that, so we’ll do better! All that avenue means is that we have narrowed our feild of adoption. Since the classes are a state requirement, we won’t go through the state foster-to-adopt system.

Instead, we’re researching interstate and international private adoptions. So while your dad is out Finding Nemo under the sea, I’ll be getting things ready to jump into that arena as soon as he returns. Hopefully we’ll all be celebrating Christmas 2014 or 2015 together.

The quotation above is from one of my favorite books, The Last Lecture. The man who wrote it has several things in common with your grandfather. They were both great guys, loving fathers, and they both died cancer – no doubt the plague of this generation. Neither of them were good at giving up. Generally, that’s something I’ve inherited and hope to pass along to you. Not every brick wall in life is ment to be surmounted by every person. Some walls are ment to redirect us to a different path. So we’re going to take the brick wall that seems to be made up of your Dad’s schedule defending our country and the local requirements for adoption through the foster system, and taking it as a redirection.

Will we find you in the states? Will we find you across the ocean?

I don’t know yet, but I know we’re family. We just don’t know it yet.
Love always,


About justdontknowityet

Adopted during my first year of life into a family that had a already adopted a boy. My bio mother was 15 and swore she was raped. With almost no pre-natal care, I survived and joined my forever-family. Blood may be thicker than water - but love is stronger than both. Now, my husband and I are in the process of building our own family through adoption. Our process is complicated somewhat by his service as a Navy Submariner. Sometimes the best things come from the most surprising and challenging situations. The goal of his blog is to honestly express the challenges, pit falls, heart breaks and joys of this process in letters to our future family. Every child is wanted by someone.
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